How many times have you said, “I’ll try”? I found these explanations of “I’ll try”:
…a really slick and convenient response to just about anything that presents a challenge. When we say those two words, what we’re really saying is: “I’ll put some effort into this… but I think I’ll hedge my bets too. I may succeed, or maybe I won’t, but don’t hold me accountable.” In most cases, when a person responds by indicating that he’ll try, it is simply a polite way of making an excuse in advance. Each time you say it, it becomes an easier and easier excuse to use. And failing will be easier and easier to accept, too.
… Saying, “I’ll try” often means “leave me alone,” but the person is trying to be polite! “I’ll try” also indicates a degree of dismissiveness and lack of urgency placed on the performance of the deed. If an individual says that he’ll try, he is really saying that if he can get to, and if he does it, then it will get done. The reason that saying “I’ll try” causes additional challenges to the process is that an untrained listener believes that the person responding ‘I’ll try” will actually do just that – – try. More often than not, the person saying that he will try doesn’t make much of an attempt at all, because he, either consciously or sub-consciously believes saying that he’ll try somehow gets him off the hook, in terms of getting the task done. The reality is that most try-ers are not do-ers.
What if you tell someone that it’s critical they have something done by a certain time and they say “I’ll try”. Or what if you are in love with someone and they say these words from a country song to you: “…And I’ll try to love only you. And I’ll try my best to be true. Oh darling I’ll try..”
Saying you’ll try is just not good enough. Basically “I’ll try” can be described as insincere, hollow, duplicitous, evasive, sly, fraudulent, misleading, and ambiguous.
How many times have you said “I’ll try to exercise this week” and that elliptical machine still has dust on it?
How many times have you said “I’ll try to read my bible everyday”. “I’m trying harder to pray like I should”. “I’ll try to go to church” “I’m trying to be a better Christian”. How many?
James 1 (ESV) 23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. 24 For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like.
Proverbs 13:4 (HCSB) The slacker craves, yet has nothing, but the diligent is fully satisfied.
Titus 1:16 (ESV) They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work.
Ephesians 5:6 (ESV) Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.
James 4:17 (ESV) So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
What does trying look like? Go ahead, describe it to me. There is no picture, there is no description. It’s either you do or you don’t. It’s either you will or you won’t. At some point, you have to ask yourself, “when will I stop saying I will try and really do something?
I have a challenge for you. Listen to yourself this week. Take note of how many times you say “I’ll try”. I bet it’s more than you realized. Lose the word try from your vocabulary. It’s either “I will” or “I won’t”
Here’s the deal. Women’s Life Fellowship just finished up 2017 with some amazing studies on dealing with depression, anxiety, conflicts, and anger. We had studies to help you organize your life, learn how to set boundaries, how to read and study your bible, how to pray, how to be the woman God says you are to be, how to parent or grandparent effectively, and think differently. We taught about marriage principles, friendships, receiving God’s blessings and we cleared up misconceptions about angels and other things.
How many of you have issues with any of these topics? Are you still trying to overcome some of these issues?
Stop trying and start training. You don’t have to do it alone. Make a commitment right now to get plugged in to our 2018 studies at Women’s Life Fellowship.
You can choose to join us beginning Monday January 15th at 7pm or Wednesday the 17th at 9:30 am for the 11 week study by Beth Moore Believing God and experience an incredible explosion of faith. For all the dates and other studies go here: http://womenslifefellowship.com/what-we-offer/bible-studies
Tuesdays may be better for you if you are ready to step out by faith and start training for ministries in the local church and gain helpful skills. We will meet and Anderson University at 7 pm beginning January 16th and you can choose topics like Basic Lay Counseling, Discipling Believers, Gospel-Turning Conversations, How to Study the Bible, Basic Mentoring, Developing and Deploying Spiritual Gifts, just to name a few.
Also on Tuesdays, same dates, same time, same place, different room, you can pick the discipleship series designed to teach people God’s plan in the seven areas of life: spiritual, psychological, social, physical, financial, marital and parental. Click here for more details and dates.
Maybe Thursdays work best for you. How about joining a Spiritual Accountability group that will meet at 7 pm about every other week throughout the year? You’ll develop a Personal Growth Plan and throughout the year you will be provided instruction and accountability in Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual goals. Click here for more details and dates.
There’s something for the men in your life, too. Sid Stewart, former executive director of the Haven of Rest Ministries has recently begun a brand new ministry in the Anderson community, focused on men to help them be all they were meant to be. Groups will begin January 16th at the Sullivan Ministry Building at Anderson University from 7:00-8:30 pm on Tuesdays. Topics covered will be Identity, Purpose, Work, Sexuality, and Freedom.
Check it out here – Scroll down to a November 6th post that gives you dates and topics https://www.facebook.com/Menslife28/
Now, who has an excuse? Put one of these opportunities on your calendar. Now! Stop trying. Either you will or you won’t.