Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting. -Emmet Fox
I tend to be a critical person. When it boils down to it, the root of my criticism is usually because you don’t do things like me.
There are so many subtleties in this area. There’s times when I believe it’s actually wrong, based on truth (not the same as criticism). There’s times when constructive criticism may be needed (with a genuine motive to be constructive), but there’s other times that I judge and get “irritated” just because someone lives, does, looks, etc differently than what I would do.
How prideful. How sinful.
I’ve realized my key word for “I’m getting ready to judge or be critical” is “irritated”. That is, someone irritated ME. I’m the victim here and it’s just my responsibility to share why!
No, when I’m “irritated”, most often I’ve not been wronged, I’m doing wrong.
So I’ve been thinking of some practical tips to help stop this behavior. Would love to hear yours as well! Please share if you have a word or a phrase that indicates that what you’re about to say is criticism. (A lot of times I’ll say, I not trying to be critical but . . . )
Here’s a few tips:
- Wait until tomorrow to share it. Criticism has an urgency to it. (At least for me) I want to tell someone about it now. Whether it’s telling the actual person or a second party, wait overnight and give a chance to be removed from the situation to gain perspective and allow the Holy Spirit to give His perspective on it as well.
- When the urge to criticize strikes, imagine someone criticizing me in the same way. How would I feel?
- Find 5 things you love or can be grateful for instead.
- Pray for eyes that see the positives and a heart that is loving and compassionate.